I feel the need to explain my past just a bit, at least where it pertains to the kids. Why? Just to give you some background. To explain some things I might post in the future. To explain what makes me, me. To explain why I might post more about one child than another. And possibly so someone out there can relate. It's not something I talk about much, online or in person. If we're close, you know my story. Otherwise, I guess, what do I say? How do I even explain? This continuously throws me for a loop when encountering new people. When do you bring it up? How do you say it? I feel as though my situation might differ quite a bit from the stereotypical parent/child relationship or family that most people picture, but honestly, every family dynamic is unique. Here goes a bit of my story:
Miss W was 8 years old when my ex-husband and I married. She has a different mother than Little M and an entirely different situation. Miss W was born when my ex and her mom were in high school, so there is a mere 15 year age difference between Miss W and I. Luckily, thankfully, counting my blessings here, Miss W and I have always gotten along. We have never had an issue and I hope for this to always continue. She lives with her mom - coming to stay with me a few times a month when she can fit it into her busy teenage working/boyfriend lifestyle. To her, I am definitely her stepmom. She will always be mine as well.
Obviously, the situations with the girls and their moms differ completely, but now you can see why I might post more about one child than the other. My ex and I encountered many struggles and overcame many obstacles with both the girls and their mothers over the years. Blended families are always interesting.
And a brief summary of my divorce. . .it was not my choice or doing. I did not see it coming. But there is a plan for us all. Of that, I am confident. I am currently pregnant with my ex-husband's child. Just as he and his new girlfriend are expecting their own child. Yep. Not ideal. Far from ideal. Nothing I'd wish on anyone, but I am filled with a positive spirit and will continue on to have a great life.
“There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.”
― Albert Einstein